• Strider@lemmy.worldEnglish
    43·
    6 天前

    Being German alone makes you hate that English question.

    Do you want to hear it or not?!

    Don’t be surprised to get an answer!

  • StinkySocialist@lemmy.mlEnglish
    152·
    5 天前

    I continue to do A. Helps me find other neurodivergent peeps and makes others uncomfortable. Sorts people out for me 🙂

    • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      61·
      5 天前

      I can’t help but to do A.

      I’m in my late 30s, and only realized a couple years ago that option A wasn’t always the right answer.

    • fodor@lemmy.zip
      2·
      5 天前

      There are 10,000 true things you could say. But you’re choosing the in-your-face truth to share. And that’s OK maybe, but don’t let your choice turn you into a jerk.

  • RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    22·
    6 天前

    I’m at work in retail so my answer is E: skip the question entirely and ask what they’d like.

    Normally works, except the one time I got called a cunt. One in 3 years is good odds though.

  • cRazi_man@europe.pub
    201·
    6 天前

    Always C. The asker isn’t really asking a question. Their whole sentence actually is equivalent to them saying “hi”.

    • brrt@sh.itjust.works
      202·
      6 天前

      Then just say fuckin „hi“. Wtf do you need this stupid dancing around for? How is it considered normal to ask an ingenious ingenuine question and answer with a lie? How am I the weird one in this scenario?

      • pageflight@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        5 天前

        It’s just a magic constant embedded in the standard conversational header, referencing an obsolete firmware version, but most users never update the client package so you have to ack it or you get undefined behavior.

      • Estradiol Enjoyer @lemmy.blahaj.zone
        91·
        6 天前

        I studied anthropology and the intricate rituals of the various neurotypicals for this very reason. The answer depends on what your culture determines to be weird, because usually we’re considered differently weird different places.

      • onslaught545@lemmy.zip
        42·
        6 天前

        Because that’s just how neurotypical brains work.

        Trying to figure out a why for it will just drive you crazy, because it’s not something anyone knows for sure.

        • ByteJunk@lemmy.world
          6·
          5 天前

          I think it’s more of a cultural thing, you grow up hearing that exchange and a neurotypical brain will just file it under “short, common greetings”.

          People don’t even think about the meaning of the words, they just grab something from the “common greeting replies” drawer without even looking.

          It’s the amount of possible variations after that that make it a huge mess.

          • faythofdragons@slrpnk.netEnglish
            3·
            5 天前

            People don’t even think about the meaning of the words, they just grab something from the “common greeting replies” drawer without even looking.

            This is how you wind up with the ‘Waiter: Enjoy your food! Me: Thanks, you too!’ situation

  • Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works
    15·
    6 天前

    “Good thanks, you?”

    Or, “been better, so hot today”.

    you’re suppose to either say good or say bad with a witty (small talk) reason, that’s it.

    • y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      2·
      4 天前

      I almost always forget to reciprocate in person lol

      Them: “How are you”

      Me: “Good”

      Them: “…”

      Me: “…”

  • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
    10·
    6 天前

    Might be cultural, but I never get bad reactions to A. Nobody wants your life story, but if you’re brief, chances are nobody will bat an eye. e.g. ‘tired’, ‘stressed’.

    • ByteJunk@lemmy.world
      2·
      5 天前

      It does work, but it’s harder to pull off because you need to give a short, relatable reason along with a negative (if not immediately obviously).

      If you reply that you’re stressed but you leave it at that, the other person won’t know if they should ask you about it or not. If they do, they might be getting into a much harder, longer conversation than they were expecting to.
      But if they don’t ask, then they will feel like they’re being rude, because you’re supposed to help out other people if they’re not well, so either way it probably won’t be a pleasant experience for them.

      If you offer something like “stressed, finals are coming up”, then they can keep the conversation going by asking you about it, or they can just move on by wishing you luck or something to that effect and move on.

      • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
        3·
        5 天前

        Yep 100%. Culturally where I’m at small talk is seen as having the purpose of starting an actual conversation, so ‘stressed, finals are coming up’ is ideal. Brief, not too deep, and invitation for conversation. But also said in a way so that’s it’s not rude for them to just say ‘sorry, that sucks’ isn’t rude.

    • stingpie@lemmy.world
      61·
      6 天前

      The best answer I’ve heard. It is both a “you don’t care about the answer, so I’ll just give you a canned response” answer and a direct commentary about the social ritual.

  • nroth@lemmy.world
    2·
    4 天前

    Why does talking about a special interest have to be a negative/panic response? I do this all the time and people seem interested. Or they suddenly have to go haha. Either way, you asked! Though these days, talking about machine learning is more socially acceptable than it used to be thanks to ChatGPT! A lot of opportunities to correct misinformation too, though people hate being wrong, so that needs some care…

    Anyway, yeah, I take that as an invitation!

    • slackassassin@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      4 天前

      Agreed. Also, A and C assume things are bad which is a lame assumption. Sometimes things are going good specifically because of a special interest.

  • Estradiol Enjoyer @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    6·
    6 天前

    you always get the “fine, you?” out of the way. it’s just part of the script. But people think I am Weirdly Caring if it’s like someone who isn’t actually expecting me to ask how they’re doing back, like my therapist or something. I don’t think it’s a bad perception to cultivate, though

  • N3Cr0@lemmy.world
    7·
    6 天前

    I see, I’ve done it all wrong. I always tried C and sometimes A. Next time, I will do B and talk obnoxiously about something I like. Repeat twice and they hopefully never ask me again.