I’m starting to think that I do not, and I suppose it will be one of the greatest tests I face. My partner is convinced that he will do anything for me, simply because “he loves me”, whereas I continue to have boundaries. They’re a bit of a hopeless romantic, honestly, and it seems like they’re trying to recreate a teenage-type love they never had.
I thought I was liked for more than my body, but that seems to be the main attraction here :/ And they almost seem offended when I don’t show the same level of interest in theirs and try to convince me to get on viagra or something (which is completely missing the point).
Here’s something for them to do for you: Adjust their attitude to cease making demands upon your mental state. Stop trying to manipulate you into a position of emotional subservience where your emotions follow the pattern they set out for you.
If he wants to experience a relationship that way, that’s his prerogative. But if I understand correctly: he is trying to convince you to accept a philosophy of “unconditional” partnership? It’s naive/silly at best, but could be the prelude to some real bad future dynamics.
However you feel is how you feel. No amount of argumentation from him, all of hexbear or internal dialogue will make your emotions different. So he has to decide if he is satisfied with that. If he is not then you will grow to resent each other, if you don’t already.
Doesn’t sound very unconditional to me.