I completely agree and I have personal experiences to back that up
I feel like men who have not been allowed to explore their sexuality in a safe way become extremely angry, frustrated, and dangerous
That’s why I feel like homophobia is something that should be less reviled, and more looked at as a trauma inflicted on the homophobe
This comes from somebody who works in social services, and I myself am non-binary. I know it’s hard to look at the hate that comes from homophobia with compassion, but I feel like it’s necessary in order for society to heal from it
There are secret homosexuals who are homophobes because they have been bullied. Some are openly gay but are self-hating because of bullying as well. To put it succinctly, there are self-hating gays because they have internalised the oppression, and that is manifestation of trauma.
Bottling down the innate sexuality towards the same sex because of societal constraints is bad for the person’s well-being. At worst, it self-perpetuate the culture of homophobia because the self-loathing person adds fuel to the fire.
What can anyone do about it.
Learn to accept that homosexuality is perfectly fine, and those with internalised oppression needs therapy.
No, I don’t understand what you’re saying. What would “looking at as a trauma,” look? Would they go to therapy for the trauma inflicted on them for being hateful? I don’t know what you’re saying.
I completely agree and I have personal experiences to back that up
I feel like men who have not been allowed to explore their sexuality in a safe way become extremely angry, frustrated, and dangerous
That’s why I feel like homophobia is something that should be less reviled, and more looked at as a trauma inflicted on the homophobe
This comes from somebody who works in social services, and I myself am non-binary. I know it’s hard to look at the hate that comes from homophobia with compassion, but I feel like it’s necessary in order for society to heal from it
Beware the trap of saying straight people can’t be homophobic
eh? What would that look like?
There are secret homosexuals who are homophobes because they have been bullied. Some are openly gay but are self-hating because of bullying as well. To put it succinctly, there are self-hating gays because they have internalised the oppression, and that is manifestation of trauma.
Absolutely, but what is the use of knowing that information? What can anyone do about it.
Bottling down the innate sexuality towards the same sex because of societal constraints is bad for the person’s well-being. At worst, it self-perpetuate the culture of homophobia because the self-loathing person adds fuel to the fire.
Learn to accept that homosexuality is perfectly fine, and those with internalised oppression needs therapy.
Not entirely sure… but I think you have an issue with the premise of my statement first, if you’d like to discuss that?
No, I don’t understand what you’re saying. What would “looking at as a trauma,” look? Would they go to therapy for the trauma inflicted on them for being hateful? I don’t know what you’re saying.
That the trauma inflicted on them drove them to be hateful, not the trauma inflected from being hateful.
The hate as the result (as in, an unhealthy coping mechanism), not the cause.
It seems like a difficult thing to do in practice. You wouldn’t know they had trauma until they started acting out their hate.
That’s the trauma, the oppression of their own sexual freedom which leads to homophobia
But, how would you know to treat it before they acted out their hate? Are you saying we should have compassion after they acted out their homophobia?
Compassion and accountability can be concurrent