AFineWayToDie [he/him]

Booze, Drugs, Guns, Lies, Blackmail, and Laughter.

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Cake day: July 29th, 2020

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  • My partner is drunk again. I’m supposed to get up at 5am tomorrow to drive her to work. The same thing has happened for the past 2 or 3 weekends, and so far she still has a job, but her drinking has cost her more than half a dozen jobs in the past few years and her behaviour shows no signs of changing.

    I’m growing more and more resentful because she doesn’t want to go through with any sort of addiction treatment. My own counsellor has offered to me to connect her with someone, and there’s addiction treatment on-demand available at the local hospital, but she just doesn’t want to do any of it.

    I know that addiction is not as straightforward as just asking for help, but I’ve been out of work for more than a year and a half and can’t find anything, while she hops from job to job like this.

    There are times when I just want a break from watching her self-destruct, but she’d probably be on the streets if she wasn’t living with me.

    I have ADHD and am probably on the autism spectrum, and I know I’m not always easy to deal with. But she never tells me what she’s feeling or what she wants, and it feels like any effort I make to support her, or even just keep an eye on her to make sure she stays on the wagon, ends up as wasted energy. And it’s already all I can do to keep searching for work.