So I’ve had multiple GF’s who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters… so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?

So glad this didn’t exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house… When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn’t exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.

But all the “stories” on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right… Evidence was required… right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It’s not like women have ever made false rape claims… right…

I’m not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through… but you can’t just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn’t fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that’s selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.

Just for you next time I’m in Chicago, I’m going to order a pickle Chicago deep dish pizza

I promise everything on that menu is like $10 overpriced.

$13 for a hot dog. Hot dog better be code for a fat blunt for $13

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https://www.f650pickups.com/augusta.html

https://stretchmytruck.com/services/six-door-conversions/

6-door pickups are very much a thing.

Have you seen a popular streamer that does?

Yes. I think a lot of people would reference the MatPat apology.

Why would he? don’t think anyone would lie about that, since those aren’t “glamorous” jobs

That’s your personal bias. He lets people believe what they want. He used it for clout, and while you might not care about game development or cybersecurity, there are many who do. When he did security, he did social engineering. Which is just as valid, but if people are more impressed because they think he’s looking at source code and whatnot… he doesn’t correct them and leans into those stories. Since you kinda hipster-esque view of YouTubers… here’s a guy with less than 1000 subs talking about it, https://youtu.be/oKadi1zy8fQ and he didn’t really do that much at Blizzard either, not in game development either, but again, he doesn’t say what he actually did and has a lot of stories that don’t connect. That’s like if I said, “Yeah, I worked at the White House for 7 years” and just left it at that. But then it comes to light, I was the one mowing the grass, and that’s it. If I don’t specify what I did, nor correct people, and telling stories that I overhear that belong to someone else (and I don’t specify that) or talk about things that happen that I wasn’t involved with… then I’m lying by omission.

That guy rubs me the wrong way too (assuming you’re talking about Cr1TiKaL/penguinz0).

Not even close. https://www.youtube.com/@CodingJesus He’s a C++ developer who got his name because in some older photos of him people said he looked like Jesus. That’s the whole “lore”.

The WoW things is the most well known, be he had a similar behavior in another game, Ashes of Creation i think. Doesn’t take accountability for anything. Cannot say sorry.

There’s also stuff coming out here cheated on his former wife. And then was a massive manipulative dick towards the person that he was cheating on with.

Or that all his previous credentials are fabricated. Like he doesn’t like giving details what he’s actually done in previous jobs. He’ll just state that he works somewhere and then let you fill in the blank. Or passing off what someone else did at the job as his own.

In his own channel he purposely misrepresent the recent things about him. And coding Jesus actually put out a video showing that, when he tries to reach out immediately gets filtered and banned. But meanwhile Thor is telling people that all he had to do was try to reach out…

Back in the day, I had a girlfriend who burned a CD that was just this. The entire thing, just filled with this one song over and over. She’s sneaked into my apartment, put it into the CD player, Hit play, and left.

Thinking about it still brings a smile to my face.

I’d probably try to get the job back, if it were me.

That client is going to be a client whether or not you’re there. Their views are going to be the same whether or not you’re there. And the company is going to pay somebody to do the job whether that’s you or not. And what’s going to happen is going to happen regardless of what you do. Food and shelter are needs for you. You suffering helps nobody.

As for finding work, I suspect a lot of places are trying to leverage AI and fewer bodies. (I do hope that trend dies.). But we see a lot of layoffs in IT the last few months.

Man, I hope it’s good. Scrubs is my favorite non-scifi show. I want to buy the whole thing on bluray/dvd but right now I can’t find the whole thing. Some people, when you say “Eagle,” think the bird. Some people think “USA”. I think about Turk and JD.

So let’s start with college. Failure is a part of life. You can do everything right and still fail. There’s no shame in that. If you gave it everything you had, then you have nothing to regret. And what you can ‘give’ changes over time. Now, let me tell you as someone who is a software engineer… experience and certain certs will likely count for more over time. College is a great way to get your foot in the door, give you some experience, etc. Some jobs might “require” it, but that’s going to be some crap FAANG job. So, if you want to go back, do it because you want to, not because you think you have to.

But let’s shift this to your career as is. Imposter syndrome is a very real thing. If you feel like an impostor BUT you’re able to do the work and people think you do good work, then you’re doing good. The impostor syndrome will go away as you gain confidence in what you do. So if you think the company pays you fairly and you see financial growth in your future, you’re doing fine. And I know what it’s like to be the solo developer, with multiple managers all wondering when a thing THEY promised someone is going to be done. A month or so ago, I had a happy hour with a colleague/mentor of mine, who said I had nothing to worry about, that my job wasn’t on the chopping block, and everyone is really happy with my work. After that, I felt less pressured to work 12-16 hour days (especially as a salaried employee).

Now for the harder stuff, homelife. Listen, you’re the kid. You’re young. Your bio-parents have problems and are refusing to do anything about it. Those problems are not your problems. It’s not like they 80+ and you’re in your 50/60s and your bio-parents just can’t move around like they used to, stairs are dangerous because they have a bad hip, they’re getting weak, etc. It’s possible, and I’d think likely, that your own mental problems are extensions of theirs and being around them. Now, I’m no doctor (as I previously stated, I’m a software engineer…) but I strongly feel like if you had your own space, away from them, were you can focus on just you, not surrounded by negativity, and you can decompress… I’m not saying it’s going to cure you, but maybe it goes from ‘quite strong’ to ‘very mild’. From habanero down to jalapeno.

Story time, kid. When I was younger than you, I lived with my Mom and step-dad. They were garbage parents to me (apparently, they got better with my younger siblings). Every job I wanted, they told me how terrible I’d be at it. They never showed up for my sporting events, didn’t support me in any of my extracurricular stuff (like knowledge bowl). When I’d get the admission letter for the gifted and talented summer program, well… most parents would be super excited that their kid got into it, but they weren’t. My mom regularly let me know how much she just really wanted me dead (by hand gun!) Eventually, moved in with my Dad and my step-mom. Who were ALSO, somehow, terrible but in fun new ways. One fall, being 18 but in high school (where my birthday lands me on the older side for my grade), at maybe 2 am on Saturday, I had an argument with my Dad. He insulted me and my girlfriend. For context, she wasn’t there, he was just “in for a penny in for a pound, if I’m going to burn this bridge, might as well do it right”. So, I was 18, paying rent/bills, going to high school yet, and working full-time. None of my parents gave a shit about me until I graduated college… But, backing it up a bit, living with my folks, I thought I’d amount to nothing despite the school system labeling me as ‘gifted’. Eventually, I was extremely suicidal, depressed, unhappy, etc., and single. At one point, I was working a job I FUCKING hated, living out of a long-stay hotel, watching my bank account drain slowly, buying the cheapest food I could… I’ll be honest, I figured I was going to die before I turned 21. But I met someone, and she was amazing. She didn’t demand anything of me, she was just there. She was just kind. And when I’d hit my lows, she and her mom didn’t abandon me, they supported me. They supported me on my terms, how I wanted. I felt someone cared about me. I became happy. I became motivated. She inspired me by just existing. And I remember the day it all “clicked”. Where I saw a future. A “hey, I think I might want to grow old” kind of future. It’s the day I knew I wanted to marry her, the day I decided to turn my life around, etc.

Now sadly, this story doesn’t have a happy ending. People change over time, that’s the sad truth of reality. But, that’s not the focus of that story. It’s that… I felt like nothing when I was with my folks. And when I was on my own, it was hard and I was failing, so I wanted to be nothing. But then, she walked into my life. Then I wanted to be something. And even though she’s no longer in my life, I’m still moving forward

Hope that helps. You’re not alone out there, even when it sometimes feels like it. And you’re young. You’re in your twenties, you’re still figuring out what it means to be an adult. Figuring out who you are. But from my personal experience, your 30s are amazing. I don’t have a full view of the 40s yet so I can’t comment there yet.

It want that long ago. Just read any OBS posts. Honestly I haven’t kept up with it for a while. A quick search shows discussions continue. Does appear most still think Nvidia has the best quality.

But the games aren’t the same price. And the policies ran by the companies aren’t the same. I don’t think Valve has ever said they’re going to break your steam deck if you use it in a way they haven’t deemed fit. And I’d question if you can mod games on the switch, like even games that normally support it.

Kids are very materialistic.

When I was in middle school, I was probably the worst for me with the bullying. I came from a family that didn’t have a whole lot of money. Like even the cheap stuff we had to cut corners with. And well I was fully aware, that there was no real difference between what I had and what they had, it didn’t stop the consistent bullying. And the teachers never cared. The other students didn’t care in fact some of them would chime in too. And when that’s your life for several hours a day 5 days a week… You eventually just get to a breaking point.

I’ll never forget the day I basically had a complete emotional breakdown because we were doing back to school shopping at Target, and I saw one of those trapper keepers. With a weird designs on the outside. They were all the rage. And it was like eight bucks I think. My mom did end up buying it for me, but only because her soon-to-be 5th grader, collapsed in the isle crying. I don’t remember what I told her, but all I could think about was having that was going to make life just a little bit easier for me.

Kids can be real assholes to other kids.

Oh snap! I didn’t know that! (Not a Christian)

There’s only 10 fucking commandments! How hard is it to remember 10 short items for a faith you claim to believe in.

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus+20&version=NIV

Not voting for them sends a message, but it’s the wrong message - and that message is that the populace prefers the GOP

Hard disagree on that. That’s assuming the intentions of the people. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You_are_either_with_us,_or_against_us

If you’re argument is that we need to be doing what’s right and pushing for progress, then why is that cast as something ONLY the “blue” can do? I don’t know how old you are to see how many times the “blue” has absolutely failed at their job, failed the people, but for no other reason than they’re in the right party, they keep getting voted in. But I’ve seen several “blue” presidents do anywhere from fuckall to the bare minimum in terms of progress/change.

There are other options to vote for that don’t just include the GOP as you seem to suggest. The US isn’t supposed to be just a 2 party system. It’s supposed to be dynamic; these parties are supposed to die off when they no longer represent the people. If you want progress and change, but keep doing the same thing that doesn’t seem to be all that progressive… are you making any progress?

Hard disagree. If we continue the narrative that the US is a 2 party system, actively rejecting and backing other parties in fear “the bad guy will win” (a sentiment and view shared with the Dem/Rep parties), then we’ve entered a endless loop that only as we’ve seen over the decades, is a race to the bottom. We elected Biden because we didn’t want Trump and largely for no other reason. That’s not a good reason. And Biden even commented that he was perhaps too old (his words).

And it’s a fallacy, shared by the Dem/Rep, to fear-monger the “If you don’t vote for MY party, then it’s voting for the other party (the bad guys)”. This was a false narrative that was spread this election and several before it, to prevent anyone else from opposing the status quo. A vote for ‘not my party’ is not a ‘vote for the other party’. If I can’t vote how I want (speaking broadly here for everyone), then my vote doesn’t matter. And if my vote doesn’t matter, then I’m not being represented. And if you’re going to argue that, I’d like to point to the huge number of eligible voters who consistently don’t vote. If we cast non-votes as a vote of no confidence, we’d see a big change in things. But doing that means Dem/Rep would lose the seesaw swings in power they have come to enjoy.

So no, you shouldn’t just throw your vote blindly behind any side. Especially because the internet thinks you should (and again, that goes for Dem/Rep alike).

Ah, but if you said anything against the blue (but not in favor of red), you were the vile, evil… CENTRIST! (I.e. a label just applied to you to single you out for not blindly agreeing with the zeitgeist.) Seriously, the front page of Lemmy for a good while was just toxic political “VOTE BLUE NO MATTER WHO” and if you didn’t agree, you were just a problem.

It’s ok.

Your enjoyment is going to fall intob either you making your own fun and/or playing with people. Playing solo, it’s a big ghost town.

Combat is unvearied. The gameplay loop gets very repetitive very quickly.

Early game at least, the sandworm and dust storms provide an interesting looking threat for a while.

It’s not a bad game, but it’s a pvp centric game with minimal pve to justify the story of Dune.

To me it seems like it’s very much going to be a flash in a pan kind of game. It is going to live and die by rapid updates to add content. What is there if you know what you’re doing, you could experience the whole game in about a weekend.

You can use your own. But at every single point they’re going to tell you that your brand new top of the line modem, is out of date and is probably the problem of any issue that you’re having. They try so hard to gaslight customers in believing that you need to use their white labeled equipment. They want you to use their stuff and pay the fees so they can resell the Wi-Fi, and they have full control over your device.