I think of it like this: Those people were never going to be compatible with you anyway and you spend a lot of time and effort masking and trying to hide who you are. It works for short interactions but not with anybody that you’re going to see often.

You’re better off acting in a way that makes you the most comfortable and true to yourself. The people who can’t handle that will filter themselves out. Rejection isn’t pleasant, but it’s brief. On the other hand masking constantly is exhausting even if it fools people for a bit.

You’ll be much more content in the long term if you just understand that it’s okay to just be who you are and let others decide if they like that or not. I guarantee that there are women (and men) who are compatible with you, but you won’t meet them by wasting your time with people who are not.

Pretty much every corporately owned service on the Internet actively spies on you for the police.

An important thing to understand as authoritarians take control of governments and start using this comprehensive spying apparatus to target political opponents.

Learn to use your computer. Use open sourced tools and software, invest in your own hardware and host your own services. It doesn’t require years of learning or study, you can often get by with a video or two.

My Jellyfin server doesn’t call the police. My local language models don’t store everything I’ve ever written. Nobody is scanning my NextCloud server or mining my Signal/Matrix/Jami contacts to determine my social graph.

All of this is running on cheap leftover hardware (with some new hard drives) and I save over $100/mo on the equivalent services. And way more if you consider access to every streaming service with exclusive content.

Windows is spying on you, Meta is spying on you, Google is spying on you, Amazon is spying on you, OpenAI is spying on you.

They do this because they make it slightly easier to use software and so people give up every bit of privacy and autonomy for their entire lives just to avoid reading a wiki or learning a technical skill.

I don’t think that that is a good deal.

It’s okay to be different and that often comes with struggles. But it sounds like you’re trying to attack the problem with yourself and not just giving up and being angry about the world. That’s a good mindset to have.

Sex is fun, but it doesn’t cure loneliness. If you’re looking for a longer term solution then start looking to build lasting relationships, be open about having autism and you’ll find that the people you end up meeting will be going into things with you with a bit more understanding and empathy than if you just try, and fail, masking.

And, as always, a therapist is very useful when you’re trying to make a big change in your life. Having someone who is both educated in psychology and an unbiased observer can really help you see and understand things that you’d otherwise miss.

It isn’t a male loneliness epidemic, it’s a loneliness epidemic. You’re never going to get satisfying answers to your questions if you accept the framing that it’s a male loneliness epidemic.

It’s a loneliness epidemic for everyone.

Focusing on the arguments of people who have no understanding of the topic and are just spreading toxicity is pointless; but pretending that there isn’t a loneliness epidemic because it’s used to power some incel memes is contributing to the apathy about this issue which is causing harm to both men and women.

https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf

Just to be clear, there is a loneliness epidemic: https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf

In the scientific literature, I found confirmation of what I was hearing. In recent years, about one-in-two adults in America reported experiencing loneliness. And that was before the COVID-19 pandemic cut off so many of us from friends, loved ones, and support systems, exacerbating loneliness and isolation.

Loneliness is far more than just a bad feeling—it harms both individual and societal health. It is associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, stroke, depression, anxiety, and premature death. The mortality impact of being socially disconnected is similar to that caused by smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day,4 and even greater than that associated with obesity and physical inactivity. And the harmful consequences of a society that lacks social connection can be felt in our schools, workplaces, and civic organizations, where performance, productivity, and engagement are diminished.

Dunking on incels who equate loneliness with a lack of sex and ascribing the “male loneliness epidemic” to being a meme made up by chronically online social media users is a mistake.

Everyone is experiencing loneliness.

Just because women suffer in silence while some men turn to antisocial behavior doesn’t mean that this is a problem that’s fabricated or only affecting men.

If you’re resistant to believing that this is a real problem because the people making noise about it on social media are primarily men then you’re ignoring reality.

I don’t know what this means, but it’s provocative and gets the people going ⬆️

Christie Noem liked that.

https://github.com/alexghergh/nvim-tmux-navigation

You want something like that. It makes navigating between the two applications use the same set of keys, there are some other plugins (linked in the readme) that do similar things with different feature sets, but fixing the keybinds is a huge step towards making it a smooth experience.

I do work for a financial advisor, tax loss harvesting happens every tax season. You sell positions that are at a loss and invest the money in something else. Now you can claim that you lost money even if you reinvest in an asset highly correlated in value to the original one (there are some rules about what you can buy, but they largely don’t affect this technique).

This isn’t even rich people, under a million in assets. If you’re really rich there are tons of different loopholes available to you.

https://junegunn.github.io/fzf/shell-integration/

fzf is a nice tool for this and other things

They’re sending peace missiles every day now.

We just need to fix out football shaped eyes instead of trying to correct it.

Is it unfixable with lenses or only unfix able without lenses custom designed for your eye?

If that makes sense

Yes, and contacts too (for mild astigmatism)

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If they learn the secret of the crab computer too early, they’ll never be the same.

Took me a minute, I was like “no way did this guy just say Aryan, American”

My phone battery died trying to read this conversation

I went to Google to search for adblockers and they told me to go to another site.

It seems a bit dated too, I definitely have a bitlocker disk mounted right now.

The TPM secure boot key part is true, but you can disable secure boot and use (on Windows) manage-bde to add a password based key. When you boot and it can’t load the bitlocker key from the TPM it prompts the user for a password.

I’m fairly sure there’s a way to bypass the secure boot requirement for Windows 11 too, I think I read about it but I’m not using windows so I didn’t look into it much.