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Cake day: August 24th, 2023

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  • Helpful outlets don’t just fall in your lap, though. You have to do the work of trying things and see what sticks. You can start with small, achievable distractions if that makes it easier, too. For me, it’s taking a super hot shower and singing along loudly with music blaring. It’s just a short amount of time, but it stops my brain from going down a bad road sometimes when I can tell I’m about to have a rough time.

    You are not a passenger in your own life, and you are going to have to start actively making changes if you want things to improve for you. It’s not going to just randomly happen to you.


  • The worst thing you can do when people are working hard to get a reaction out of you is to give them one. That doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat, but as others have said, there are more constructive ways to react to these kinds of workplace issues. By lashing out you’re only hurting your own credibility in this situation.

    You keep repeating the same defenses of the behavior you say you’re trying to stop, though, so I am not quite convinced you want to change these things. It seems more like you want to change how people react to your behavior. If I am wrong, then I apologize and sincerely suggest dialectical behavioral therapy. It teaches you how to manage intense emotions in the moment.







  • When you’re done savoring the smell of your own farts, think about what you said. You went from claiming many people care more about the dog than they do the human murder victims, then you jumped to saying people didn’t care about the humans at all. These are very different things.

    Different people have different values, and these values are shaped by a variety of circumstances. I may not agree with these values or the reasoning behind them, but there are plenty of factors I can think of why some people who aren’t sociopaths may have a reaction like this to stories like these.

    In the end, it matters to me more that people care in this situation than why they care. Holier than thou purity testing only divides us further, so trying to understand where people are coming from before you generalize and write them off is a much better strategy if we want more allies to help in this mess. We’re going to need all we can get.


  • GiantChickDicks@lemmy.mltoaww@lemmy.worldFluffiest dog detector
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    25 days ago

    I’ve worked in animal rescues, shelters, and at a veterinary clinic. I’ve interacted with probably hundreds of pit bulls in my life over the years, and I’ve fostered more than ten of them. My fosters were all lovely with me, other people (especially children), my resident dogs, and all my cats. One went on to become a service dog for a little boy with autism, and my last foster is now a support dog for a young adult with severe autism.

    While I have met some pits with behavioral issues and different types of aggression, they are few and far between. There are many, many other breeds that have a higher percentage of individuals with dangerous behavioral issues than pit bulls.

    I would encourage anyone who has such patently false ideas about these dogs to volunteer at their local shelter and get some actual experience with bully breeds. If that’s too big an ask, have a conversation with the vet techs and doctor assistants at your veterinary clinic, and ask them which breeds they have the most difficulty with during appointments. It won’t be put bulls. There is a reason that very few people that work with dogs share your opinion.









  • Lonely isn’t the right word, because I’m not upset about not having a large group of people I consider myself close to. It’s somewhat disappointing that I can’t deeply relate to more people, though. I’d like to meet more likeminded folks, but I’m also less and less willing to tolerate draining relationships as I get older. Being particular about where you invest your time and energy tends to be socially limiting.



  • People do notice and talk about it, but they’re not making the connection to climate change for some frustrating reason.

    I work for a pet food manufacturer, and I talk to people all over the US and Canada. We’re located in Wisconsin, so customers will often joke about our notorious winters. When I tell them it’s not like we remember and don’t even have consistent snow cover during winter months in large parts of the state, they’ll reply with similar stories about how the seasons in their areas have changed. People see it, they just aren’t following these thoughts to their natural conclusion.

    I think it’s too frightening for them to accept, which leads to paralysis and inaction. It doesn’t help that deniers make this refusal to accept reality more comfortable for them.


  • GiantChickDicks@lemmy.mltocats@lemmy.worldMonster
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    2 months ago

    Thank you for this comment! I have a cat with FLUTD, and this condition can become fatal quickly if not addressed.

    I’d also like to add that declawing can lead to litter box avoidance, and as a consequence, inappropriate elimination in cats. Declawing doesn’t just take the nail, but it also either removes or damages he first “knuckle” bone in cats’ paws. This can result in nerve damage, which makes cats’ natural digging in substrate painful. This is one of many reasons to not declaw your cat. There is no justification for this awful surgery.