I didn’t! Would have thought Muhammed/Mohammad/etc would be the most common one. Mostly because I feel like almost every Arab man I meet is named some version of Muhammed. :D

Could be that Ahmed is just his father’s name as Arabs tend to give their kids the middle names of the fathers before them. It can sometimes create very, very, very, VERY long names if the chain isn’t broken. Have heard of cases where the man had like 50 middle names. It is kind of crazy.

Of course, that doesn’t explain why he would decide to not have his last name on the certificate if it really is his, but this could be an explanation for the name.

Just me not catching my phone autocorrecting cars to Cara for some reason. I’ll fix it, 2 sec.

The mere thought of my boyfriend having to bike 90km to work on the highway is equal parts funny and terrifying, lol.

You got it from both sides, you poor thing haha.

I think it is so funny that people seem to forget that Gen X set the stage for internet culture when most millennials were teens and preteens.

Absolutely love that millennials are once again taking all the blame for actions that the whiny generation also partook in and indeed cultivated with glee before behavioral regulations online became a thing. When that happened, millennials were also being blamed for being too soft.

We rarely eat red meat in our household, but we do have a car. They fucked our local public transportation system so badly we ended up not having a choice 🤷‍♀️

Just came from another discussion about cars killing the same number of people as guns do in Chicago, so by that logic: cars are good for the environment too.

Throwing insults is not a discussion, by the way.

denying that fear is exactly the kind of car-induced sociopathy that I’m talking about.

Lol.

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Claiming that people driving cars are sociopathic is a bizarre claim. Claiming that cars are worse than the concept of a mass shooting is insane. I reiterate: I hope you never find yourself in a mass shooting. Seeing a car drive by on the road cannot make you remotely as scared as being trapped in a building, knowing someone is shooting, but not knowing where they are, how many there are nor how close they are to getting you or your loved ones.

You cannot compare driving cars in a city to that. That is insane.

I do not understand your mindset, but I very much do hope you will never know what it is like to be trapped in a mass shooting.

You are definitely speaking form a position of privilege.

Usually, people don’t get behind the wheel with the intent to kill. We can always discuss the ramifications of drunk driving, speeding and other reckless behaviors that some drivers exhibit when they put the lives of others in danger. It is a discussion that is worth having and it is very important.

However, you cannot tell me that carrying a gun around and waving it in someone’s face is anything other than an attempt to threaten a life. Guns were built explicitly to kill. That is their only purpose. That is why people mostly focus on gun violence. There is intent behind the deaths of every person involved in a shooting while with car crashes, it is rarely the driver’s intent to murder anybody.

It doesn’t mean that car crashes don’t matter and don’t deserve attention, but you comparing the two as if they are the same is frankly ignorant and smells of gun apologist.

I mean, you can just buy dvds. They are cheap af. If you know where to look you can also find bluray discs for cheap. My boyfriend and I sometimes go to websites for used dvds and blurays and they don’t cost 30 to 40 euros there.

You can also go to the library and borrow dvd and bluray movies. It’s free and you can discover some films you would have otherwise never seen. I do that a lot and my boyfriend and I enjoy this setup. It is a lot cheaper and nicer than having subscriptions to two or three shitty streaming services that are filled with trash and none of them have the movies we want to watch. Fuck that shit. Physical media all the way. It is so easy and cheap to go back to physical if you really want it. It is probably cheaper than subscribing to services where you basically pay for air and own nothing.

Vi så Incendies fra 2010 her til aften. Jeg har set den før, men det havde min kæreste ikke.

En fuldstændig fantastisk film og en af mine absolutte favoritfilm.

Vi følger et canadisk tvillingepar i tiden efter deres mors død. Pandoras æske åbner sig da de får læst testamentet højt og det viser sig at deres hemmelighedsfulde mor har en fortid, der stikker dybere end nogle af dem kunne have forudset.

To breve ligger klar. Det ene skal datteren give til den far, de indtil nu havde troet var død og det andet skal gives af sønnen til den bror ingen af dem vidste de havde.

Herfra starter rejsen mod sandheden og sandheden ligger et eller andet sted i Mellemøstens tørre varme, i deres mors hjemland. Hver sten bliver vendt på vejen mod sandheden og under hver sten ligger en skorpion, der afslører den ene altomvæltende hemmelighed efter den anden om deres mors fortid og hvad der blev af de to mænd, de er beslægtede med.

Med på dvden er en lille dokumentar som er halv behind the scenes og halv interviews med de mellemøstlige statister, som alle har haft krig alt for tæt inde på livet. Filmens instruktør, Denis Villeneuve (Prisoners, Enemy, Sicario, Arrival, Blade Runner 2049 og Dune-filmene) nævner selv at han aldrig har kendt til krig og derfor er meget lydhør overfor statisternes intuitionen og forslag så det han laver bliver autentisk. Dolumentaren er lige så, hvis ikke mere, spændende end filmen selv da man hører fra børn, unge, midaldrende og helt gamle, der deler deres oplevelser af krig. Nogle er fyldt med hævnbegær, andre er plaget af traumer og yderligere andre føler en taknemmelighed for at kunne deltage i noget, der belyser deres virkelighed.

På sin vis føles det til tider som at overvære en masse overgreb på traumatiserede mennesker når de skal bevæge sig gennem sættene med brændte biler, murbrokker og lyd af skud. En teenagedreng smurt ind i teaterleder står og taler om hvor ubehageligt det føles i hans krop at gøre det her. Fnisende 18-20årige piger taler om hvordan lyden af kampvognene i baggrunden vækker minder fra krigen i Irak og at det sidder i huden på dem. En mor ser på scenen hvor en bus fuld af mennesker bliver nådesløst beskudt og brændt af. Hendes døtre er statister og hun taler om at hun er glad for at de deltager i filmen. At det var noget de gerne ville. En af pigerne får sprøjtet teaterblod ud over sit tøj og smiler kækt med lidt galgehumor “rød - kærlighedens farve”. Moren fortæller hvordan en militia brød ind i deres hjem og hvordan de dræbte hendes søn.

Så mange historier og lige så mange mennesker til at fortælle dem. Alle er de mærket af det på deres egen måde og selvom det føles forkert at have dem til at genopleve de ting de flygtede fra, så virker det som om at det for dem alle er en vigtig ting at gøre - også selvom det er ubehageligt.

Incendies er Denis Villeneuves bedste film og det er slet ikke op til diskussion. Jeg har set alt han har lavet (undtagen Dunefilmene) og ingen af dem er overhovedet i nærheden af Incendies’ niveau. De andre film er film. Incendies er virkeligheden fortalt gennem fiktion. Når man tænker på hvor høj kaliber en gennemsnitlig Denis Villeneuvefilm er, så siger det altså ikke så lidt. Vil klart anbefale den til alle.

Jeg glemmer aldrig første gang jeg så den og hvor rystet jeg var da vi nåede rulleteksterne. At se den igen og vide præcis hvor den er på vej hen gør den ikke mindre spændende eller mindre rystende. Den viser virkelig hvor grusom krig er og hvad krig gør ved mennesker. Og så har den bare et skidegodt budskab: vi arver alle vreden og den holder os i lænker, men vi må og skal bryde kæden og ikke give vreden i arv til næste generation.

Det lyder virkelig spændende! 8D især at det er sådan nogle vildt nørdede chili-typer du går efter! Du er jo sådan en rigtig chili-nørd! Jeg håber det lykkes dig at få fat i frø til den kinesiske så du kan tilføje den til samlingen!

Gad også gerne have sådan nogle kompostorme! Måsle en dag, suk 😌

Jeg håber I får en masse glæde af dem og håber at dine projekter pg eksperimenter giver dig en masse ny god viden. Ville ønske at jeg kunne kaste min far i nakken på dig for han har altid været en slags mini-Søren Ryge og brugte uhyrlige meget tid i 90erne og 00erne på at læse bøger om økologiske køkkenhaver og jeg ved ikke hvad, for så at føre sine gradvist mere og mere ambitiøse projekter ud i haven. Han brugte nedfaldne blade og hønselorte som gødning i køkkenhaven. Gravede også en jordkælder til grøntsager og hjemmebrygget vin. Den kælder er blevet et forbavsende populært klubhus for salamandere henover vinteren i de senere år.

Han lavede affaldssortering flere årtier før det blev cool og tapede billeder af politikere han ikke kunne lide på lågene til skraldespandene. Gør han stadig.

Har sgu mange sjove historier om hans mange haveprojekter gennem årene. Den mand ved ikke hvordan man keder sig.

Han har også siden fået kompostorme og trak mig begejstret ud til dem så jeg kunne se hans nye “kæledyr” da jeg var på besøg på et tidspunkt.

Say no more, my friend. I’m the same xD I have some messages I need to reply to that I just can’t and sometimes it takes days to answer, other times months (embarrassing) and yet other times I can reply immediately. So I completely get it haha.

Aw man, I’m sorry to hear that! It really is a hit or miss when it comes to people’s experiences getting diagnosed. I have also met people where it was relatively easy for them to get through the eye of the needle and I’m low key envious of them haha.

There probably is something to it if both your sibs have it as well! And yeah, when I was a kid, ADHD basically didn’t exist and was called something else (DAMP) and it was only a diagnosis given to very disruptive boys. I think the first time I head about ADHD was when I wad like 19 or 20 and back then the understanding of it was that it’s what happens when rowdy boys get too much sugar so they need medicine to make them quiet.

I didn’t really know about how ADHD typically presents in women and girls until a year and a half ago when my spouse told me that he thinks I have it, so yeah.

In that sense I really feel you with having been too old to be caught early and taken seriously and such.

I hope that, if you seek a diagnosis again, you will have better luck with the professionals assessing you. I have heard that there are good and kind people out there who want to help, so if one has the energy, time and money to look for a good egg, then it is probably worth it for peace of mind!

Have also heard about the whole meds thing that that is why they don’t want to diagnose adults. The few times I have talked with people about it irl they also immediately bring up the meds as if that is my motivation, but it really isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, if it turned out that there was a pill that could help me with some of my issues, I would most likely want to take it, but for me, the main motivation was always to have proof that I’m not just making things up. That I’m not crazy or making excuses. Its always been an issue of mine that I feel like I have to justify my feelings and experiences and I automatically assume no one ever believes me, so having paper proof that it is real is something I really wanted.

And people always go “then what next?” And I’m always like: then I’ll go back to my life? What else?

People always thinks it’s the meds, but for me at least it’s the peace of mind.

That’s valid, my friend!

I dunno if I find the meme to be promoting acceptance of that type of behavior tbh. There may be some people out there who will use it to excuse bad behavior and never try to improve. I see memes like this as funny commentary on symptoms that are pretty annoying, but not much else.

It’d be different if it was a meme that basically said that trying to change and improve is futile and one might as well give up or something like that. I wouldn’t agree with that. One always have to try, but it is okay to remember that some things will probably never be easy and that isn’t really your fault if you try your best and still fail sometimes.

I know a disproportionate amount of ADHDers in my personal life and most of them keep trying and they do their best. Some function really well while others struggle a bit more. I only really know one ADHDer who refuses to take responsibility for himself and constantly blames everybody else for his predicaments. Needless to say, most people don’t like this guy and he isn’t really getting anywhere in life because of his attitude. ADHDers like him would look at any ADHD meme and use it to confirm their own victimhood and continue to make it other people’s problems that they are like this.

Meanwhile most others will look at these meme and go “lol, I do do that, but I’m working on it” in some shape or form.

Lyder som en god plan! Hvilke slags chilier kunne du godt tænke dig at plante? Min kæreste var ret glad for chilier på et tidspunkt og gik meget op i at smage alle mulige forskellige slags. Jeg kan spørge ham hvilke chilier han bedst kunne lide og hvorfor hvis du mangler inspiration til hvilke slags der kunne være sjove at plante? Kan huske at der findes chilier, der smager af chokolade, nogle der smager af citrusfrugter osv. Det er noget spøjst noget.