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Cake day: 2023年7月6日

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  • Honestly feel this… Will say for how much being a teenaged girl sucked I did learn the power of gaslighting and peer pressure which helped a lot. My dad and mom were always brawling with my sister and after it got used on me by my peers I realized since my dad was a momma’s boy I could always threaten to tell my grandma, my mom was a religious nut so I could always bring up the devil and as long as I rearranged their arguments as “you’re the crazy person” they couldn’t figure out how to say shit back and would go away. I mean…still got bullied in winterguard, but weirdly helped my home life.

    (If you want to know my sister unfortunately died at 30 of natural causes, I’m practically NC with my dad and my mom found a religious cult who helped her with anger management so we’re mostly cool now + she’s no longer in the cult cause one of them claimed to curse her with a demon so worked out somehow…)



  • Just from DMing perspective I feel this when my players decide to fight a NPC they weren’t supposed to fight at a level I don’t have a block for lol. “Well your options are cr3 and cr10 and you’re level 7 so…10 it is and imma just shave some stuff off while hoping for the best” lol. Shout-out to every time my party says they’re looking for shady people to circumvent the legal way to do something then balk when the pricetag isn’t a handshake and an IOU their reputation proceeds them will never be collected.


  • Last week of 1997 I think (got a computer programmable barbie for xmas and somehow my older sister took this as “time to put her on the internet” lol). First thing she did was sign me up for AOL chat then put me in a “kid friendly” chat room (think there was a suggested list or smtg). Ended up being a roleplaying animals chat and…well it wasn’t just kids in there lol. Half of us were just typing “turns into a panda and rolls around” and others were typing “bear sits at bar and winks at panda”. We quickly exited that and she searched me a cat facts site and left me to it.

    With the new found power of search I started looking up where we were blocked in whatever the current Tomb Raider was which led me to fanfic porn which led me to what’s 69 which actually led me to a couple different groups of older people who were very chill and “you shouldn’t be here”, but also gave me a lot of advice on sex ed (which was appreciated, my mom’s period talk was vague and conducted like I was in a war now lmao), keeping private on the internet and what’s an inappropriate conversation someone’s trying to have with me, saying no and I don’t have to talk to anyone who’s making me uncomfortable. Also taught me how to download music and safe practices. So thanks “perverts” of the 90s, I appreciated learning what reverse cowgirl was, no means no and how to download music for free so I could stop tape recording my favorites off the radio lol.



  • I’m not a mineral person going to be honest (I work in healthcare lol), so not sure I can really answer your questions. Also sorry being a bit cagey didn’t want to dox myself before a google, like felt 99% sure this was a common mineral, but again not a mineral person.

    Basically I lived in some foothills along a ravine made of granite. Home 1 I think we had a neighborhood well and home 2 was a personal well. I can’t list the equipment being used to soften the water (if at all), I just know neither were on town water and home 2 I helped my dad install a softener since there wasn’t one (which tbh didn’t help too much besides making the water coming out of the faucet less cloudy and mildly less thirst inducing).

    I don’t think my hometown has a lot of limestone (idk may be wrong, like said I’m not a mineral person, all I know it’s a granite ravine) so can’t comment too much beyond that. This was just my experience with water growing up and what put me off it for a long time.



  • I drink it now…on town water lol. Growing up outside of town proper in my area it did not taste good and left you more thirsty than when you started drinking it. The water was hard enough taking a shower felt like washing down with iron wool and if you stayed in more than five minutes you came out peeling. I was actually amazed the first time I lived in a town center on town water and the water didn’t make my skin feel raw lol. I was floored when I lived in a beach town and not only was the water mild, something in the area made the water taste slightly sweet and enjoyable to drink instead of “somewhat metallic from old pipes, but inoffensive cause it’s thirst quenching instead of thirst exacerbating”.


  • My cat feels he’s got to be invited in and demands I open the window so everyone and sundry can see me crap while he enjoys a nice breeze and wildlife voyeurism. Then while I’m mid-crap he decides we’re done here and if I don’t let him out prompto the whole house is gonna burn down.

    Meanwhile if I don’t let him in he’s scratching up the door like he’s trying to call 911 for a murder. Honestly don’t know which is better but I guess my shits have gotten faster…

    Ftr this wasn’t better when we lived alone and I’d leave the door open. He’d just stand at the entrance yowling like he was reporting a fire. I have been informed by family his shits smell worse than mine so idk what he was complaining about. Especially cause when he craps he immediately tries to vacate the premises like he just left a bomb and a quick sashay out will save him from the shrapnel.



  • Sometimes it’s just a passion project by crazy people. My town has a shack on a busy non-walkable intersection without even parking spaces that sells only angel figurines. Let me be clear, this isn’t general angel knickknacks, this isn’t specific saints, it’s angel figurines ONLY. You will find no bless this house signs. No Christmas tree toppers or ornaments. Not a single holiday decoration, religious or otherwise. You won’t even find Jesus on the cross.

    Angel. Figurines. Only. I always assumed it was a front for something until my mom helped with some taxes for them. No, it’s just one crazy couple who are obsessed with the sanctity of the angel figurine. They feel very strongly about it and asking if they do garden angels now that spring’s coming up and you’d love to patronage them is apparently offensive enough for them to take their taxes elsewhere lol.


  • Being that person providing a better method halfway through a process. A cave person standing on top of another to cave art the ceiling? Halfway through I go “…You know you coulda just grabbed the log from outside, leaned it against the wall and climbed it”. Someone halfway through whittling a bowl? “Oh, yeah, I saw some coconuts on the beach they’d be perfect”.

    I have the great hobby of Looking At Random Things, but the bad habit of assuming everyone else saw those things too so they must be doing what they’re doing for a reason lol. That all said I’m sure I’d be dead from dysentery within a week or smtg, they wouldn’t have to suffer me long.


  • That’s not true for women’s clothes… It’s sundresses right now and I’m getting all the ones with pockets I can find and so are a bunch of other women, they sell out fast. The issue is the pockets are usually incorrectly positioned and rotated in such a way anything you put in them falls out on top of being tiny so now things are 2x more likely to fall out AND you’re constantly patting yourself down to find the damn pocket. I had one I really wanted to buy, but couldn’t cause the pocket was angled for me to be covertly groin shooting someone with a gun, not making sure my keys stay on my person lol.



  • All are fine, just different cliches. Mostly nowadays I read manhwa since it’s easier to read on the phone, a series usually starts with a drop of 20 episodes and then releases weekly and usually at least the guys look kind of adult… (I mainly read trash romance, it’s desperate out here to get characters who don’t look like middle schoolers or something lol)

    I mainly read manga when I want an actual story that isn’t just the same 50 plug and play tropes in a blender every time (ie think the mangas I follow right now are Frieren, Heroine Survival and Arte). Manhua I VERY rarely touch. They seem to have the worst machine translations and tbh I really dislike how they implement most of the tropes, just way too petty/childish/violent for me. Only manhua I read are Cheating Men Must Die and Shut Up, Evil Dragon.



  • One was very laid back and tried to take good care of everyone despite being retail and him being laid back. Got me the highest starting pay he could (corporate seriously fought him over 25¢ and he compromised with them for 10¢ instead of just giving up, was only like $12 extra a month with my hours, but hey that’s still money). He understood the metrics were bullshit and didn’t crawl up my ass about getting them done even when they kept going up and we got new metrics added. Ofc did my best to just to keep him from getting shit for it (corporate certainly didn’t believe in raises or rewards for meeting them), but I appreciated he never trickled down their bullshit and stress to me. When a supervisor kept being inappropriate (I have so many stories about this dude, but I’ll just say he was 40 trying to badger a 24yro subordinate into dating him via antagonizing the rest of us to peer pressure her into it and I did have an issue with him telling me he had tick bites/rash/whatever and start pulling up his shirt/literally down his pants even after I said NO I WON’T LOOK FOR HIM as some examples I’m a woman and he was a straight guy if that makes any difference though tbh don’t believe that was bros being bros behavior anyway cause he did it with the 20s me and not the 60s female coworker), this manager did speak to him multiple times and then help me get HR involved and I didn’t get put on his shifts anymore.

    Other one was insurance and also went to bat for us about bullshit metrics and was very accommodating, like above and beyond accommodating (during covid new person got hired for wfh and then came out with she didn’t have home Internet and manager did get the company to agree to help her out with that, yeah it was ridiculous, but this manager just went beyond like that for everyone). She’d talk to me about problems like I was a person too. I like processes and a lot of times in healthcare at entry/you’re the lowest worker on the team it’s just a disorganized mess (this place our “processes” were photocopies of past employees notes of “idk it just worked” or “someone told me to do it this way and I don’t know why and there’s no updates to the department about changes that affect anyone not managers so I’m assuming it works even if this item keeps reappearing as rejected in my queue”). Any questions I had she’d answer or go find the answers for me, if I discovered anything wrong about our processes or to streamline them she’d listen to me and help me refine if needed before implementing. She let me write guides for the department on this stuff which I super appreciated (meant I didn’t have to keep fixing other employees work, the amount of stuff that would go through on our end as solved and then come back rejected I had to figure out my first couple months was insane). To explain this a previous job we were using a program no one understood, we just had a binder with steps. Anytime anything changed in the program or someone did something wrong no one knew what to do we’d have to get a manager in there who was NOT good with computers so no one could do work with that program half the shift until he either found some convoluted work around to make the numbers add up that looked like fraud and then send a manager email to his managers about it or he’d admit defeat and all our other managers would have a five minute go at it and then just write an email about it and we never talked about it again lol (we’d have months where we just had to add or subtract numbers to arrive at the right inventory until I assume IT somehow fixed it). I actually sat down and figured out that program (with the power of googling the manual and reading it cause we didn’t even have that!!!), wrote a more current comprehensive guide with both how the program works for our needs (in case anything changed again so people knew WHAT each function specifically did) and step-by-steps for our daily use AND appropriate correction steps for mistakes, he read it over, greenlit it, I started typing it up for the employee drive— nah nvm he doesn’t like change, scrap it. He did this to me CONSTANTLY and fought me on stuff as basic as “it’s 20XX, why are we managing our inventory and machines with a system of 8 clipboards”, he just did NOT believe processes could have evolved since 1970 or that anyone not a manager was enough of a person to contribute (he did this to everyone below manager, not just me). So I really, really appreciated the hell out of this other manager when I said hey handing out photocopies of notes from employees who knows how long ago is inefficient and I got to the bottom of some of this stuff, can we make a process to give everyone, she was on board, an active participant, actually followed through and didn’t backtrack on it because the world peaked in 1970 and non-managers can’t have functioning brains, they show up and do as told.

    Last one I’ll list tbf wasn’t the greatest, like he was a great guy, but not so great with non-performing employees (which tbf we had such high turnover company wide we were always struggling for a fill with at least 1/3rd our positions for various reasons, so I could kind of understand, you need a body to show up for shit pay at a job you have to touch poop, there is very little asking for more than that is going to get you beyond people refusing to show up to your site again as a floater). But this job was also very disorganized and he answered all my questions, when I brought up stuff he’d bring it up at the mandatory monthly meeting (this wasn’t crazy stuff, it was like if you get poop on something please make sure to clean it, we will no longer be putting feeding bibs in the same drawer we keep the toilet cleaning rags, etc). He also didn’t demand I use my car for pt transport (I was not hired to do this, it was a “fun” thing I found out after I was hired I was expected to get people with walkers into my jeep and not get gas payment to take them around). Like that job was super shitty (figuratively and literally), but he’d hear me out and see what he could do within reason (not cause he didn’t want to do more, but like said low pay super shitty job we couldn’t even retain employees at). Unfortunately, but understandable, he left and we got in a new manager who did the usual “I have worked at better jobs, everything the past manager did is wrong cause I need to show I was a good hire, instead of getting permanent hires and upping patient care we need to focus on how artistically the towels are folded and make an office area I can exclude you all from by stealing employee equipment so when MY managers come in I look like I run an upscale hotel and not a hospice home”. (Fr one of my coworkers just enjoyed folding laundry artistically from tiktok tutorials and this manager decided first we need to be folding them like the gdamn country flag off that and then when she moved to artistic hotel folds with a fan ruffle we needed to store all our towels that you know were regularly used for cleaning piss and shit and stored in an employee closet to that).

    More of a rant about my bad managers, but the bar has honestly been in hell for me so all these managers stuck out. They treated me as a person and they wanted me to succeed, they supported me wanting our department to succeed which is honestly the rarest fucking shit I ever see. We have such bad training in my field at my level (idk might also be bad at higher levels, I’m just not there) and I’ve had a lot of managers not want anyone to do the job right for various reasons I really appreciate when they let the team all help each other up. Maybe a person doesn’t take that in, but the insurance one I had another coworker like me and holy fuck it was amazing with my manager facilitating. By the time I left between us we’d figured out most stuff and written guides so onboarding was SO MUCH EASIER. We saw 0 compensation for this and tbh it frustratingly tanked our numbers for metrics cause we’d solve stuff first try instead of needing three goes at it (which counted as three metrics), but gdamn it felt rewarding to know we’d solved an issue and trained the department on it so a patient didn’t have to get their care delayed or downgraded (when I started if you couldn’t get something passed through you’d do 2-3 days of meds until you hoped someone figured it out, absolutely insane) until something changed again. Like both of us spent literal HOURS on the phone working these things out which isn’t how it should be, but getting them down to 20min processes was amazing and I take pride in that.



  • Honestly feels like their only mistake was not making it roomba sized with an outer mini railing that would keep the roomba from falling off AND they could hang decorations from it. Really didn’t think about how they could multipurpose this.

    ETA I retract somewhat, they could be total mavericks and get a long extension for their vacuum and then tape it to an RC car. Is it a lot of extra work? Yes. Would it be amazingly fun? Also yes. Especially if you hook up catnip spreader basket on the back (though maybe that’s unsafe, probably don’t encourage your cat to weed and balance beam).