I can share all of the systems that I have developed for the Webfishing server for yourself or @Stigsbandit35z@hexbear.net to use if you are interested.

I’m taking a break from everything due to poor mental health so I’m on light duties and it means my response time is usually at least a couple of days, so set your expectations accordingly.

It’s not that difficult to set up a server in Webfishing for this purpose but I did take a few steps to help with accessibility, like multi-modal ways of understanding the time it was scheduled (because of time zone conversion issues.)

In my experience the demands vary depending on what people need on the day. I’d say that it’s important to have a clear understanding in mind for how you would manage any disruptive or inappropriate behaviour (though I didn’t encounter any at all across the times I’ve run a server) and what you would do to maintain a safer environment (reminding people not to over disclose if they seem to be digging too deep into something that is raw and traumatic [i.e. where you would draw a line and guide them to talking with a support hotline or therapist instead], reminding people about being cautious not to give out too many specific personal details, and how you would respond if someone is in a mental health crisis etc.) This is probably overkill but there is a duty of care that you have when you set up a space like this.

Ensuring that you have the right self-care in place is also important, especially if you are newer to facilitating groups like this. Having your own support network to help you with debriefing and processing stuff is crucial.

Let me know if you’re keen and I’ll provide you with what I’ve got, just remember that it will probably take at least a few days for me to do it.

That’s really weird. I’ve checked this in two different browsers on my phone and it works fine but I thought I should quickly check on PC and it is showing an error when I open the link there, but I can download and view the video just fine. I’m a little stumped by this lol.

I wonder if there’s some sort of problem with catbox. I’ve just tried reuploading in a completely different way hopefully that works. E: Seems to be working fine now? Strange.

Oh hell yeah, is this getting discussed in the mainstream more?

AMAB/AFAB seem like they have just become stand-in terms to conceal bioessentialism by using progressive-sounding words. I tend to use them only in a pinch and I’ve made efforts to be very intentional about saying “was” and not “is”, as this subtle distinction makes a big difference if I’m going to resort to using those terms at all since your assignment at birth is not who you are but rather it’s something that happened to you. Even then it’s something I generally only use for shorthand to refer to socialisation and mostly only in referring to myself. E.g.:

“I was AMAB and so I’m still trying to figure out whether I’m genuinely NB/agender spec or if there’s some really super deep internalised misogyny that I’m completely oblivious to lurking in my psyche which is there because of how I was raised.”

I think one of the things that works is finding users who you particularly enjoy having exchanges with, often the ones who you find sharing an overlap in interests with and who spends time in the same comms and who seems to enjoy replying to you (especially if the comment exchange goes for more than one or two replies).

The next step is usually connecting with them via DM or exchanging socials. Usually this is easier if you have a purpose for contacting them rather than trying to strike up a discussion from nowhere.

There is the visual cuisine which happens once a week, I think, and is announced in masterposts like this upcoming one. There’s a chatroom in there which you can use to engage with others. There are other events like a peer support space that I try to run at least every week or so via the game Webfishing, although that might not necessarily suit your interests.

I’ve seen comrade CorgiWithALaptop invite people to impromptu viewing sessions via the visual cuisine cytube space but idk how that works exactly, but I think they set a good example of how to invite people to hang out.

I think this stuff is kinda hard to navigate as someone who is autistic because understanding the nuances of the whole thing can be kinda tricky, speaking from personal experience. Not to say that you should self-segregate but you might find it easier to try a comm which could be more accommodating such as the neurodiverse comm or to ask the mods there if they would consider helping you set something up via that comm if you feel like you would benefit from getting some assistance with connecting with other users or organising a group activity like a watch party via cytube, for example.

Bought a handheld gaming device fairly recently, a nice one. I know I’m gonna sound like an absolute crackpot by saying this but a lot of the impetus for getting it was about making some accommodations in my life and for (semi-)therapeutic outcomes.

No, I absolutely would not believe it if someone told me this either lol. And yes, there have already been some notable positive outcomes from this, which means that they are probably more significant than I realise cos I have this blind spot where I downplay positive outcomes that are personal to me and I’m usually the last person to notice improvements in myself.

It’s nice to know that my elaborate scheme seems to be a good one so far and that it’s already working as intended.

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Ah dammit, it must be a server issue or something. Let me restart and make a new server to see if that fixes anything.

Will update you in a minute or two with a new lobby code.

I’m still running the server but it’s just me in there at the moment. Feel free to drop by and say hello if you want to.

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That’s such a shame that your hardware isn’t playing nicely with Linux but it’s really cool that you gave it a try and it’s just as cool that you actually like it.

It’s hard to fault past you for, years and years ago, buying this laptop without considering Linux compatibility - it’s not like this would have been on your radar until this point so of course you wouldn’t have given it any thought. Them’s the breaks, I guess.

Oh bummer. Maybe next time?

The last one ran for about 5 or 6 hours, the one before that was even longer. I reckon there’s a good chance we’ll run long for this one too.

Hope to see you there!

Another Drop-In Peer Space being announced, so soon!? Incredible!!

@Luna@hexbear.net
@whatnots@hexbear.net
@large_goblin@hexbear.net
@joaomarrom@hexbear.net
@grym@hexbear.net
@Beetle@hexbear.net
@SadArtemis@hexbear.net
@Edie@hexbear.net
@imogen_underscore@hexbear.net
@DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net
@moondog@hexbear.net
@Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net
@Cowbee@hexbear.net
@TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net
@damnatum_seditiosus@hexbear.net
@PurrLure@hexbear.net
@un_mask_me@hexbear.net
@ratboy@hexbear.net
@AshenWolf@hexbear.net
@alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net
@rtstragedy@hexbear.net

Hope to see you there!

I had a really good time as well. Thanks for coming to hang out again!

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The thing that gets me is that he could make himself last on the list if he reduced the operations of his orphan-crushing machine by like 90%. Not even 100%, just 90%.

He could hold onto more wealth than he could spend in a lifetime. He could still live in a ridiculous mansion and shit. But if he gave away 7 of that $7.5bn on actually good causes that he wasn’t profiteering from which directly benefitted the world then he would almost certainly be considered one of the rare “good ones” and his chances of getting cleaned up in a wave of uprisings would be very, very low.

But no. He’s going to have panic attacks due to a latent guilty conscience but he isn’t going to actually do anything about it. This headline has the same energy as an oil executive who publicly complains about a heatwave imo.

Sounds romantic!

Haha thanks!

I know there’s a lib inside my head and he must be killed but some part of me always feels bad when if I think about pirating indie games. One time not so long ago I got groceries delivered like the bougie scum that I am and there was a legitimate fuckup in the delivery process, so I claimed it an ordered a replacement order. Just after the claim process was completed the delivery got dropped off and I felt bad because I was getting more than I should have and I worried that I might have gotten the delivery driver in trouble accidentally. I probably need to be more ruthless or something but I feel like I’m not really built that way. It’s only when someone is an irredeemable piece of shit that I can get past this mental block in me.

It’s expensive tho