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Cake day: August 10th, 2023

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  • Lots of not-awful pron sites don’t bother with compliance. Cheap, private VPNs are £60/year or less, and it was probably a good idea to have one anyway with all my communisms.

    People make fun of the law as a minor thing, but it covers way more than porn. The real annoying thing is not being allowed to view some news articles, Discord servers, reddit posts, even science articles, basically anything anywhere etc. Many are downright banned either by the law, or because verification is stupid/not doable; and many just require ID (which I will never provide). So I kind of have to use the VPN 24/7 just to see half the internet, which is annoying.

    They intend to try make Wikipedia comply too, and once VPNs are also cracked down on, we basically won’t have a useable internet.

    That being said, Labour seem intent on letting the fascist Reform party have dictatorial power next election (not due to majority support, but due to FPTP). And Reform are promising to remove the law, so that problem might be solved while I get my skull crushed into the pavement.

    But yeah, “guv” and stuff, whoo. doggirl-gloom



  • There’s definitely some specific behavioural/stressor related circumstances, too. I would’ve argued I just couldn’t get addicted to alcohol, drank a lot in my late teens/early twenties, and could just stop on a dime, no problem. Same as you, routine for weeks, binge, stop, zero issues or cravings.

    Then a few years later, I got an extremely stressful job, started drinking every night specifically to cope with the stress. And that was the issue, after only a couple weeks, I noticed I couldn’t relax without alcohol. I was starting to mentally work out how much I could legally drink and drive to get through a day. I packed a half brandy with my work lunch.

    Thankfully, it’s something I was consciously aware of, so I very reluctantly handed in the job and decided to be (thankfully temporarily) povertous instead of an alcoholic. But I looked into the eyes of the beast that month, and I saw that a drug can be fine and enjoyable almost ad infinitum, but as soon as it becomes a person’s “coping mechanism”, that’s a real danger point.

    Not saying some people aren’t massively predisposed to addiction, but it’s definitely a complex affair that can strike in the right circumstances.



  • Hey, this is the first time someone has expressed a thing similar to the thing I experience. I don’t know what my deal is - I just can’t… unlove a person. Like, I can recognise we can/should breakup and that’s the right thing, that’s okay. But I can’t un-know all I know about their brain and admire their wonderful ways of seeing the world.

    Even the one who abused me for years, I recognise that what they did was bad, and that I should do all I can to avoid getting trapped in that again (it was ~5 years ago now), I still have an unshakeable admiration for their personality. They didn’t do it out of malice, it was insecurity; But similarly, they didn’t care they were hurting me, either.

    But not being able to hate them… I do still wonder if this is a healthy or unhealthy mental thing, I’m still not sure.


  • Also

    As the Soviet Union and the US tussled over the Korean peninsula, they agreed to to divide it. The Soviets took control of the North and the US, the South, where they set up a military administration until 1948.

    When Kim attacked in 1950, a South Korean government was in place - but Mr Ahn, like so many North Koreans, believes the South provoked the conflict and that its alliance with Washington prevented reunification.

    Is a a WILD way to sum up the Korean war in just three sentences. “It was just a little USSR-USA ‘tussle’, then Kim attacked! >:( Some propagandised people think the US was somehow involved! The end.”




  • I would hugely agree with this, and think it’s an underaddressed point, even on better communities like Hexbear.

    An ENORMOUS part of an effective conversation/argument is empathy - understanding what the other person is thinking. What their circumstances are. What they prioritise.

    I’m always complaining about my nostalgia for ye olde internet days, but back then you’d be in a forum with known users who you’d chatted to for years. You’d know all about their lives, their friendship, what their daily mood has been like, etc. Not saying arguments always went well, but there was a huge level of understanding that meant you both had a decent idea where the other was coming from.

    Nowadays, the likes of Twitter, Reddit, and even Hexbear to a much smaller degree, you can make any point, and some faceless person will jump in and start arguing or misunderstanding you. They won’t understand where you’re coming from, you don’t understand where they’re coming from, you’re both talking past each other, and this just seems to be every online interaction ever now. Human conversation was never ‘designed for’ an interaction between an individual and a million floating, unheard, not-understood, argumentative voices.

    Far more people online need to start realising empathising with and understanding your conversing partner is like, step #1 of any worthwhile conversation.