Trying not to over-share is my natural state and I am usually pretty bad at it

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Cake day: March 7th, 2025

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  • Many rural areas in the US still don’t even have internet access except for the wealthiest homes/neighborhoods among them. And, as we share this exchange, many more are actively ontheir way to losing access to the same, simply because, regardless of the cost on us, our government has decided to put that money into the pockets of people that do not need it. I grew up in an area where the internet was assumed to be only for the wealthy because things were just that stuck in time due to the blatant misallocation of government funding and the greedy fucks that ensured things would be this way. That’s the same government that ran this poll, right? So if we both know, for different reasons and in different ways, that this government can not be trusted, why trust them to give you accurate data on this topic?

    The issue with data points like this is that they imply an assumption of completion that simply can not actually exist because of how incredibly large our population is. There is no way to wrangle all of these cats into taking the same singular poll in order to get truly accurate numbers, so accepting these numbers without any skepticism is, at best, an assumption based on a lack of information, much like how some people can believe that a disproportionate amount of people live in unreasonably small areas. Think about the people in those underpriveleged rural areas I mentioned up top. How many of them do you believe were asked or invited to take this poll? How many of them never had a chance to due to lack of access? How many do you think chose not to participate because of their frustration with how things are and the people that made it this way? How many do you think refused because they just couldnt care less?Why assume that these factors should not be considered when trying to get a clear and true understanding of how things are here for the common people?


  • Why assume most Americans have seen NYC or other major cities though? Most of us don’t ever make enough money to travel this country’s hard-to-imagine-how-big-it-actually-is vastness, or even enough to leave our hometowns for longer than a couple days before financial woes start nipping at the mind, if not worse.

    This is not to say I think it’s a reasonable conclusion to think 30% of our population is in any of these three areas of course. That is silly and requires a very skewed view of things (which, lucky us, is easily provided by any number of increasingly ‘official’ seeming news sources that really just deal in intentional fear mongering and reductionism). Most people tend to believe whatever is put before them, and we have a system that has been explicitly set up to present false images of reality to US citizens. Propaganda to keep the propaganda machine running, right? As unreasonable as it is, it also makes sense that people could be duped into believing it because this system so many of us are stick within is hellbent on ensuring that we are intentionally conditioned out of the ability to know better by adulthood. It doesn’t work on everyone, but it works well enough that’s it’s perpetuation is currently one of the highest yielding economies this foolish country has to offer.

    The line of thought that seems obvious and reasonable to you and me has been intentionally beaten out of countless people here before they even had a chance to understand how to think rationally. I don’t know how to fix these things. It is just so obvious to me from this inside vantage that the stupidity of our country is one that has been intentionally manufactured and amplified at the expense of us, the actual people the same system depends on and revolves around keeping ignorant.

    Sorry for the rant. Many Americans are dumb. Most of the ones that are never had a real option to be anything else because of how fucked things are here. That’s not intended as an excuse, but as an attempt at an explanation tbc


  • I suffered a string of ill-timed deaths when I was a teen. It hurts and it feels like it will always hurt…and, to be honest, it always will. But on the other hand, you are still alive. That means that you are still subject to the truest rule of our reality; you are still subject to change.

    I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this, stranger. It’s not fair and I’ve had similar fantasies about being able to save those beloved souls that I’ve lost. Things don’t really work like that, but what we do have in our favor is the fact that these feelings, as difficult and heavy as they are, will inevitably change over time. A day will come when the memory of those you’ve lost doesn’t stir tears, but instead spreads a smile across your face. The memories you have are precious treasures and they, like those difficult feelings, will also grow with you.

    If you’re feeling anything like I was back then, then I’m sure it might be hard to believe this, but it is very much the truth. For me, this misfortune eventually grew into the understanding that there is nothing more important than the people who will cry when your name gets called. The breathless darkness of loss is a darkness that can be cut like any other. You wake that light with the trust and love of those who are still with you and the trust and love you have for yourself. Make sure to do all that you can to have people who cry for you some day, because there is nothing more powerful, healing, or moving than the cherished connections we are lucky enough to be alive to share. It doesn’t feel like it now, but the day will come when you can look back and smile at what once shook you to sorrow. What once felt like a punch to the gut will some day feel like a pinch; something that only hurts enough to remind you of what really matters.

    You will suffer like this again someday, just as we all will. Or, most of us, at least. And in spite of that, you will also find, someday, that you are surprised by how ok it all seems in the rear-view. You’ll get through this, dude. This stranger believes in you :)











  • I was hanging out with my cousin (I was maybe 7yo at the oldest) and we were laughing because I had suddenly farted. He responded with his own toot, but to our surprise, it came out with such force and velocity that it shook every window in the room…or so I had thought.

    Turns out that a large shipping truck had passed by at just the right time and because of where we were in the room, he had seen it, but I could not. His earth-shaking ass-clapper was but a farce! Hardly even a poot left his patootie! And still, he let me believe for years (I was a naive kid lol) that he could end the world if he only ate enough beans and wanted it bad enough. What a rascal!






  • Half agree. Even if many of them are just money-hungry, there is still a ton of non-fiscal value in making it clear that queerness is not a shameful anomaly and can instead be a point of both strength and pride. Lots of kids out there are stuck in families that want them to believe the exact opposite, when they genuinely need to know that the world has more to offer than just that.

    I don’t appreciate companies trying to capitalize on this, but as a friend and sibling to many queer folk (and as well as being a bit fruity myself, even if not fully this or that), I think this visibility is currently very necessary and possibly even life saving for some severely stuck folks. Even if the motivation is obviously crook, I can get behind giving those people the inspiration they need to accept and understand themselves in spite of those who would rather see them hating themselves or worse.