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  • I also have these bouts of depression. They come and go. What works for me is keeping busy. Just doing anything helps me. Just move. Laying in bed is the worst thing to do when that happens. This is my advice to him.

    My advice to you is the following: Be there for him. That is all you can do. If you were physically close to each-other, I would suggest to just snuggle/cuddle. Human contact helps. But you are in a long-distance relationship, so that is a no go. Send him voice messages instead of chat? Let him know you like him. Let him know he is important to you. Let him know you are there for him.

    Regardless, thank you for caring about him. Compassion, empathy and kindness are the best qualities anyone can have.


  • I liked watching wrestling just to see all the muscular guys… Also, in school, I crushed on a few guys.

    Though when imagining a family, I always pictured myself with a girl. Seeing myself with a guy was just… weird and a little bit uncomfortable. I think that was internalized homophobia. When I imagine a “family” now, I definitely see myself with a boyfriend and not a girlfriend. In fact, I find the opposite now, picturing myself with a girl gives me the “yikes, disgusting”.






  • We have been very transparent about that and documented that in the wiki which is linked in the sidebar. But it seems few people ever read the Wiki and having it integrated like it is with Piefed would probably help.

    Oh ya. I knew about that, and I am fine with that. Though I think having it behind a link is bad UI. People will not read it haha… It should be presented on account creation, in my opinion. Just 1 sentence “This instance is ran on private hardware and may suffer some down time here and there” would suffice.


  • wit@lemmy.worldtoFediverse@lemmy.worldSlrpnk.net outage (resolved)
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    26 days ago

    Well, I got no reply and I didn’t see anyone else in the “mods:” bit in the bottom of the sidebar on slrpnk.net. I understand that having more admins wouldn’t help in this specific case, but it would help in others.

    Regardless, having a public lemmy instance only ran by 1 person is, in my opinion, a bad practice. And please know that I am not personally attacking you. I am just stating my thoughts. This time you were out on a work deployment. Next time you could be sick. The next time maybe a family member had an emergency and you had to help. And the next time maybe your house caught fire or whatever.

    Resilience and redundancy is extremely important in public lemmy instances. And SolarPunk is, in my opinion, all about community. There should be more (trustworthy) people with the same level of access as you do.

    Regarding the price and all that, maybe that is an interesting discussion to have with the slrpnk.net community? And it would also be good to let slrpnk.net users know how the instance is being ran, what hardware, where, etc, so users can be an educated decision on whether they want to see an instance or not? Maybe providing that info on the sidebar would be nice?

    But again, shit happens. Hopefully this serves as a learning event. If not, so much shit is going through the world, losing a lemmy instance is not something about which one should lose sleep.

    EDIT: I may be missremembering about the whole “something similar happened a few months ago and my question about new admins was ignored”… I think that might have been on mander.xyz and not slrpnk.net. I really can’t fully remember, but I think it was mander.xyz after-all. Sorry! The rest of the post stands though!


  • wit@lemmy.worldtoFediverse@lemmy.worldSlrpnk.net outage (resolved)
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    I am a slrpnk user. Oh well, shit happens. What makes me a bit sad was that a few months (?) ago something similar happened. Slrpnk.net was down for aa day or two? Don’t remember the exact amount of time. What I do remember is asking if there was intention of adding a second admin and making the point that it would be good to create that sort of redundancy. I was ignored.

    Mid of july is basically 1 and a half months from now. Hopefully a new solarpunk instance emerges, one that is safer from such scenarios.

    Enjoy your vacation and don’t stress too much! Shit happens.








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    You have been dating a woman for two months, yet you never mentioned any of that in any of your previous posts? Sounds weird.

    You said “I have been dating” and then “she is not my girlfriend”. What is your definition of dating?




  • wit@lemmy.worldOPMtoGayBros@lemmy.worldSo, GayBros, how are you doing?
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    4 months ago

    Loving the single life is honestly a super power. Proud of you. Any tips?

    I am more lonely nowadays, wishing for more and more interactions, to the point I do stupid shit. But I am learning, it is a process.

    And yes, America is going through some shit right now. The world really. The next few years will be… interesting.


  • I don’t think Trump has the mental faculties left (if he ever had them) to read an article and comprehend what he read. Or to even understand the meaning behind images such as the “Pink Triangle”.

    Having said that. Make no mistake, they are coming for all the letters of the LGBTQ+. He is surrounded by homophobic, transphobic, misogynistic people. He is also, most certainly, one of them. You may close your eyes and pretend that it is just the trans that are in danger. It is not. Trans hate will lead to gay hate.




  • Two reasons:

    • It is plastic. It will degrade into microplastics and will end up… in places where it shouldn’t. Water (from cleaning), inside of humans (and other animals) due to drinking water, breathing, etc.
    • They are much harder to clean and keep hygienic. They get smelly much faster. They smell worse within a workout and they are hard to clean between workouts.